Kindness

One of my goals for my writing life: I want to memorize more of my own and other writers' poems so I can carry them on my tongue wherever I go. Speak the words for strength and solace on the journey. Share them around a campfire with family and friends. OK, I'll admit it--it might help to keep the grey matter firing as well. I'm inspired by poets Philip Dacey, Susan McLean and Beth Ann Fennelly who are all masters of memorization.

This poem by Naomi Shihab Nye is on my list of poems I want to "know by heart"--such a wonderful phrase.

Kindness
Before you know what kindness really is
you must lose things,
feel the future dissolve in a moment
like salt in a weakened broth.
What you held in your hand,
what you counted and carefully saved,
all this must go so you know
how desolate the landscape can be
between the regions of kindness.
How you ride and ride
thinking the bus will never stop,
the passengers eating maize and chicken
will stare out the window forever.

Before you learn the tender gravity of kindness,
you must travel where the Indian in a white poncho 
lies dead by the side of the road.
You must see how this could be you,
how he too was someone
who journeyed through the night with plans 
and the simple breath that kept him alive.

Before you know kindness as the deepest thing inside, 
you must know sorrow as the other deepest thing.  
You must wake up with sorrow.
You must speak to it till your voice
catches the thread of all sorrows
and you see the size of the cloth. 

Then it is only kindness that makes sense anymore,
only kindness that ties your shoes
and sends you out into the day to mail letters and 
     purchase bread,
only kindness that raises its head
from the crowd of the world to say
it is I you have been looking for,
and then goes with you everywhere
like a shadow or a friend.

-Naomi Shihab Nye